My girlfriend and I are a few months away from getting our own place and that seems like an appropriate time to introduce toys into our sexual relationship since we will have more privacy.
I’m having reservations because she has been with a man and I haven’t. She assures me that other than the painfully obvious, nothing is missing during the experience.
If we take it a step further and introduce vibes and toys into the relationship will that give us a whole new world of options or will that inhibit us from being able to pleasure each other with only our bodies? Will we become less sensitive to physical touch?
I don’t want to go there if there’s a "once a vibrator, always a vibrator" rule. We want to be adventureous, but we don’t want to lose the closeness our manual/oral stimulation provides us either.
Am I overthinking it?
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February 11th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
First of all I dont think you are overthinking. And Grtaz to you for being able to express your feeling so well. I would suggest talking to your girlfriend about this and telling her the same things you have said here. Sounds to me like you already have a good bond and that your love makeing is at a good stage. There really is no need to introduce toys. If you are both happy with your sex life then I would say leave it as is. In my experiance toys are for people and couples that are looking to put some "spice" back in a relationship…
February 11th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
Toys can be lots of fun and they can be very convenient when you are having to "work" too hard to make it happen–like if you are really tired, etc. Just be careful that it doesn’t become a habit, becuase you can DEFINITELY get to the place where you almost can’t climax without the intensity of the vibrator. Moderation is the key. Ask me how I know this…..
February 11th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
My advice for the sexual satisfaction for both of you is that
a "biologically natural vibrator" by selection of both of you
would be best.
What I mean is you both should have a good "male friend"
that communicate with both of you with respect, bureaucratic
or like a machine , like "Doctor…" , The charactor artist of
The Star Track .
I can’t judge if you like guys or not & it is not my business;
but If you you can find such a guy that I described above
personally oy by running an adin a paper , that would be ideal
for both of you.
ypu do not need to hire, rent a guy ; but to communicate &
explain to him how you both would like to be treated by him,
before stating your relationship.
Noone is perfect , you can stom communicating with him &
find another one . this is a big world.you can even ask him
to call you both Mam at all time with respect or to be silent
like a cat ! You have the right to have fantasy.
February 11th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
My Dear, do not worry. Experiencing both does not necessarily mean that one will ruin the other. There is no replacement for physical, person to person pleasure.
February 11th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
yea u r
February 11th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
yes you ARE over thinking it …. lay back and enjoy the thrills that toy’s can bring into a relationship and you won’t lose anything …only enhance what you already have between you both ….. just make sure that you have plenty of batteries ….because you will need them