How "normal" is it to not be particularly attracted to either sex? I don’t seem to be inherently attracted to either sex, but when I’m with my partner, I can be aroused by being touched in the right way, and I sometimes even initiate sexual activity because it feels good and I enjoy being close to the person I love. When I feel the desire for sexual stimulation, both masturbation and sex do the trick and the main reason sex is more desirable is that it’s a bit easier than masturbation. I also don’t tend to fantasize when I masturbate except on occasion. I guess I sort of feel like I have more of a sexual disorientation than I do a sexual orientation.
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March 17th, 2010 at 10:42 pm
Normal is hard to define, so what is normal for one person may be abnormal for another. Asexuality isn’t that common, it estimated that about 1% of the world’s population is asexual. While some asexuals are repulsed by sex, not all are and some even enjoy it, the defining terms for asexuality is not being sexually attracted to anyone and someone who doesn’t actively seek/ has no desire for sex. However the lines for asexuality are unclear. In my opinion you seem to be more of a hyposexual or "Gray-A". You have minimal interest in sex, but the interest still seems to be there. The important thing is to not worry so much about labels and just really getting to know who you are and what you like. If it is synonymous with a label all the more power to you (and if things change with time you can just peel that label off). Hope that helps.
March 17th, 2010 at 10:42 pm
stop trying so ahrd to fit into the "box" of sexual orientation.
I don’t think a human CAN be asexual. I think that maybe you either A: are very controled in your emotions, so they are subduded, or B: Havn’t yet experienced that puberty moment where poeple suddenly go "oh wow, that person is attractive," you know? Myabe you are jsut sexually immature yet.
I suggest jsut keep experiementing and don’t catogorize of jump to conclusions. When it’s right, you will know.
March 17th, 2010 at 10:42 pm
I think being asexual is probably not very common, but I find myself in that boat. I have never been attracted to women, and don’t find them sexual at all. I am attracted to guys, but once the underwear comes off, the interest goes down. I enjoy foreplay, or showering together, but I don’t like actual sex. Not sure why, I just don’t.
I discovered how to masturbate when I was pretty young, before I even learned about sex. I think in the beginning I didn’t associate masturbation with anything sexual, and it has kind of stuck with me. Now that I’m older I usually fantasize about guys – but not having sex with them.