Hello. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 4 years now. We are both sophomores in college and love each other very much, but due to recent events, I am starting to ask myself some hard questions about this relationship. For about 9 months now, we are AVERAGING 2 sexual experiences a month. Sometimes there are 0 in a month, and by sexual experience I mean that I make her have an orgasm by going down on her. The only stimulation I have received in the past year is from her hand while I’m still using only my fingers on her (she has not gotten me in over a year). She does not want to do anything more to me because she thinks its gross. Lately, I have been having strong urges for her to do more and actually get me(yes I’ve told her). I love her very much, but she has no desire to do anything sexually. I am always the one who initiates any kind of making out or sexual activity, and I becoming sick of it. AM I obsessed with sex or is this a problem in our relationship
I DO NOT JUST WANT SEX FROM HER! I’ve been going a long time with and if that was the case I would not have dated her for 4 years! I have talked to her and she likes me getting her. She just seems to think its weird and gross. Thats her exact words. We’ve been thinking about having sex. And even tried once or twice. But it hurts her too much and so we stopped. I just want her to actually WANT to get me i guess. I dont want ful sex, but oral or her just getting me ONCE might be nice …
she didnt have any problems as a kid. Its not like that, her parents are VERY loving toward her and even me.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
are you kidding me i am dying to get laid right this second!!..im a senior in college if that helps lol. your gf is being a prude she doesnt realilze how lucky she is
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
no
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
sex for women involves a whole lot of emotions
you have to make sure your woman feels secure and loved in the relationship
maybe you are sending signals that you only want sex from her
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
My husband and I are like this. It’s a relationship problem. I love him. I just have no desire for sex. I think couples counseling would be good.
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
It seems like a problem in your relationship. Try asking her why she doesn’t want to advance and why she thinks its gross. Good luck.
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
nah i dont think ur obsessed
i meen u say u only do it like twice a month
that sould be llike twice a wekk at least
i think u should talk to her and tell her u want this
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
I would suggest seeking a counseling for this. It sounds to me like she might have had a bad childhood where people took advantage of her sexually.
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
if shes doing it because she wants to wait for marriage thats one thing.
If she thinks its gross, then that doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship, and maybe its time to seriously talk about it or move on.
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
You and your woman need couples counseling – it sounds like she has issues about sex (was she sexually abused at some point in her life? That might explain why she doesn’t like having sex)
February 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm
Wow you will never be happy the way it’s going…but try talking to her and let her know what is bothering you…if nothing changes go get professional help…try first to work it out…if not you need to move on…sex is a great part of a healthy marriage…