As a behaviorally heterosexual male who likes to hang out mostly in Y!A’s Marriage & Divorce category, I often read questions by women wondering if their husbands are gay after the guy expresses to her pleasure from anal stimulation, or a desire for it. Personally, I don’t think the one has anything to do with the other, because I am certain that many straight men (not all, but many) do like the sensation of anal stimulation.
However, I imagine that the reverse must also be true. There must, I imagine, be some homosexual men who dislike anal stimulation. Are you one, or do you know any? Does it cause you/him any problems in sexual relationships?
(Disclaimer: I am asking this question in all sincerity, because I really just want to know. It is not intended to be judgmental in any way. If this sounds like an ignorant question, please forgive me, because I just honestly don’t know.)
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February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
It’s the location of the prostate gland that makes rectal stimulation arousing to most men. Whether it appeals to them enough to seek it out is another matter. As for gay men, it’s much more often simply an accommodation to anatomy than a goal in itself, a way of expressing intimacy or receiving it. The straight world only sees the act itself and can’t comprehend the affection that may be involved and is convinced that being gay simply and entirely means wanting to engage in anal intercourse.
To answer your question, I’ve never been motivated to run around asking gay men if they even engage in anal intercourse, let alone if they enjoy it or how often they do it. Do straight men regularly poll their buddies about their bedroom practices? Maybe invite the neighbors in to watch? Personally, I can say that it feels good, but I’ve only been interested in it with one particular partner, in college. I’m more a "hands on" kind of guy.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
Yeah, it’s the whole "g0y" thing.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
Don’t mind her. we’ve all learned to ignore her. She’s a moron.
.She always writes the same crap.
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Yes I do. I know a guy who’s 40 and has been gay all his life. He’s content to service guys and doesn’t get into much else
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February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
you are right in all of it.. it doesn’t have anything to do with each other and I do personally know a gay man who does not like it anally.. anal is really a personal preference for what another likes over all sexual preference aside…
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
Sure.
Guys come in all shapes and sizes: as you said, I don’t see what one thing has to do with another.
Sure, I won’t be shocked to learn that more gay guys have experimented "with that area" (compared with straight guys) because experimenting is generally more acceptable in gay society and because anal stimulation is specifically considered "normal."
Experimenting doesn’t mean you will like it; male, female, gay, straight, young, old… That is, try it, you might like it or you might not.
My long-time blunt sex talk experience tells me that there are probably (% wise) more gay men who don’t like it than there are straight men who do.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
I think your right on the money.
Anal stimulation has nothing to do with gender sexual preference, I mean all men have prostates and the nerve endings in that location are very senstive, so its not suprising that both straight men and gay men like stimulation there.
I think straight men are more embaressed about it because it is typically assocaiated with gay men, and they feel it makes them less of a man somehow?
Really if your a man and you like women sexually then your straight, do what turns you on, in my view:)
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
LOL…this question is cute.
I personally don’t like it. I have never ever had any kind of pleasure from it. So, I avoid it at all costs.
But, (ha ha) I think I’m the exception to the rule.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
He must be Bi..and thinks like Romans= to be anally passive means CONQUERED!!!
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
I have an ex who never wanted anything up his back end. I am seeing someone now who doesn’t want it either (although he is bi, so I don’t know if that means anything). As for me, I had colitis back in the 1900’s (about 35 years ago), and my gastroenterologist suggested that I never have any anal sex. I’ve had plenty of rectal examinations, but that is a totally different experience than what you are asking (non-pleasurable). I have since had an ileostomy, so the back end is closed off. I don’t feel that I am missing anything.
Good question, by the way.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
It is not gay atall! The male g-spot (prostate gland) is accessed from the anus and thats why after a few experiments many guys enjoy anal stimulation. Doesn’t have anything to do with being gay… thats just typical stereotyping (ie, heterosexual = penis and flangita. Gay = anal) Its a pile of horse shit. The prostate gland is there to be stimulated (as well as many more regular functions).
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
I don’t personally know any, but there have been several guys here on Answers asking if it’s weird that they don’t like anal.
And there used to be (still is?) a community that calls itself "g0y" (don’t ask me how to pronounce it), which believed that anal sex wasn’t something gay guys should do . . . but it was a fairly bigoted community anyways, with strong condemnation of femininity in men as well.
Hope that helps.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
Well, there are homosexual who dislikes anal stimulation. usually, they are the ones that considered ‘top’, the one that is actually giving the stimulus (a.k.a. penetrating). People like these arent many.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:52 am
I like your question. I too find these things fascinating and would like to know. After having a fairly sheltered sexual life recently I have seen a side of sex that I did not know could be indulged in by ‘normal’ people. Simple things like going to sex shops, looking at porn online, anal sex and play and experimenting with positions and toys. I don’t know the answer but I think some people find anal play exciting and dirty and get a thrill from it but not if it is done to them.