I used to experience orgasms with sexual intercourse with my partner. Now I can only experience it with external stimulation or oral. I have the same partner and same sexual attraction towards my partner but have not experienced orgasm through intercourse for over a year. Why could this be happening? What could be the reasons? I am a female by the way.
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January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
Perhaps you need to experimetn with different positions.
another thought is perhaps maybe things are not really the same. Are yu getting the amount of foreplay you want? It is listening to what it is your want? Are YOU listening to what you want?
You may need to sit down, away from teh bedroom, and discuss this
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
Try external stimulation during intercourse
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
just call me baby! lol jk
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
why not ask a doctor rather than unqualified internet peeps?
maybe your vagina is broken and needs to be fixed?
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
Or pretend
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
My girl is the same way so you aren’t alone. If you find out the answer let me know!
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
you need to experiment… the same ole same ole is probably getting to ya
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
maybe its time to try something new… know that its like a drug you take one drug to many times its no goo till you get something off another drug. try something crazy and new..that will help.
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
It could be age, hormone levels, stress, lots of things.
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
he isn’t stimulating you well enough and if its just b/c your used to it use a vibrator or something if he loves you he will understand
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
maybe you need find the G-spot on your own (with your fingers) and then guide him on where to go from there, so you feel it.
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
go on top when you are having sex.
that way you get external stimulation as well.
also try rear entry [&& I don't mean in the ass, just try from behind] that’s usually a winner too.
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
Are you on birth control? this can affect your orgasms, as well if you have any feelings of mistrust or fear during sex this will affect you too. Have you had your annual pap test to make sure everything is normal inside?
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
Try a good night sleep for both of you. Perhaps the "new" has worn off, or it’s become more mechanical now, less passionate. Wine, candles, backrub, whatever it takes to allow you to completely enjoy each other, not just the act.
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
I would try something that turns you on more than usual. Get a little vibrating "bullet" (that’s what I think it’s called) and have your boyfriend stimulate you while your having sex. I bet that will help and I guarantee that he will be happy to do it. I would just try a whole bunch of different things and it will come back. Your probably concentrating to hard on not being able to cum so your not gonna. Try thinking about coming and I bet that you will. Good luck
January 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
Ignore some of the silly answers!
It’s a frequent problem that couple’s experience – once the initial excitement has reduced, then additional stimulation is needed. The good thing is you want to do something about it – can you imagine how many female’s are out there who just accept the situation?
As has been suggested, looking at different positions is a good idea, particularly if the position means that you can be in control of intercourse (ie on top). You can then dictate the speed and pressure, and with a bit of practice get to the stage where you can orgasm. Once you’ve got through that psychological issue of starting them again, you may find you relax a lot more as well.
I have included the resource below where there is information, particularly about female erogenous zones.
I hope that helps.