I have OCD, depression and severe headaches(Neuralgia) for which i am taking clomipramine and lyrica . Both cause sexual dysfunction (problems with desire, libido, erection, orgasm, ejaculation). Especially problematic is that i cant have orgasm (while i masturbate) even if i continue masturbating for 1 hour !! My marriage is only one maonth away. i am v worried. Have tried Ginseng, horny goat weed, yohimbe bark etc with not much benefit
i have also tried Maca Root (The worlds strongest aphrodesiac) but with poor results. The only option seems to be that i stop all me medications two days prior to the wedding night, so that i can have good sex atleast on the wedding night.
by the way, mine is an arranged marriage (arranged by our parents with my consent). (I am not an american). We have seen each others pics and spoken on phone only. we hardly know each other. she knows about my medications but not about their sexual side effects
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January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
I agree with the other posters, your fiance needs to know about your medical condition.
I also agree that’ll you’ll be needing all kinds of toys for her and it’d be nice if you could develop some oral skills…
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
You need to make your wedding night good. It should be one you will always remember with happy thoughts.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
By this stage of your relationship, your fiance must be fully aware of your situation. She obviously loves you for whatever you are. She accepts you. Go ahead and get married. She deserves you, baggage and all.
Best of Luck to you.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
I can certainly relate to the frustrating side effects that come with medications. I have taken Lyrica and clomipramine. I had the most problems with antidepressants which would shut down my orgasm and ejaculation. Please talk to your doctor. I know it can be difficult to talk about this very personal issue with your doctor, but this is way too important to let go. I don’t want to frustrate you, but it did take some time to find the right combination of medications. However, that was me and you might have better luck with a quick change.
One other issue that you might want to consider. You have an awful lot of pressure on you and the stress alone would be enough to affect anyone. Try talking to a doctor (psychiatrist). I reluctantly made the appointment and it turned out to be the best decision I made.
Please don’t give up. You don’t have to suffer. You will find help. You just need to find help.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
postpone ur wedding — make sure ur mate will and is knowledgeable of ur problem — do not get married until u are ready — and belive me u aren’t
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
load up on toys, vibrators, dildos, strap ons,
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
If you have no choice but to marry your fiance then let her know about the side effects of your drugs.
The important thing is that you tell her everything so that she too will be part of the solution.
Ask your doctor if you can stop the medications just before the wedding night. so you can have the wedding night you both wanted and you both deserve.
The key really is telling her and making her a part of the solution. Get to know her more because knowing your partner and getting comfortable with her will help both of you explore each other sexually and by doing so, you’ll be able to know the ways on making each other happy…especially in bed.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
go back and talk to your doctor. you may need to change the dosage. stop stressing yourself out that could also be the problem.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
you sure speak good english for a forigner. what is horny goat weed? hahahaha. that sounds made up. you dont have a problem. women like guys who can do it all nite.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
Tell your fiancee. If she really loves you, she’ll understand. Between the two of you, you’ll be able to figure out activities to keep her satisfied.
Meanwhile…ask you doctor if you are a candidate for cialis or viagra. As you have an email account, I’m sure you get spammed with advertisements for these drugs…don’t get them that way.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:14 am
Relax; you worry is to only make matters worse. Deep breath; take your correct medication everyday, you can work around those nasty side effects as long as you feel better phyciacally. Your new wife would no doubt love the time for cuddling only withou the "big deal"..surprise her with romance the extras can come later when you least expecet them. Holding hands or touching a kneww can be sensually exotic.