I am 24 & my boyfriend is 27… we’ve been together 2 yrs & are very much in love. It’s just the sex that is causing problems. He gets so frustrated at himself, because he wants to have sex, just sometimes "it" doesn’t work. He has problems getting aroused often, & when we do have sex it’s over in a minute or two. We are open with each other & have talked about it, we even tried viagra & that didn’t work. He’s not gay, or fooling around, or anything like that, & we both want a great sexual relationship together. I am becoming frustrated myself because nothing is working, but I love him so I would never cheat. At least we are very close so we can talk about the situation, but he’s really embarrassed and mad at himself over this. Even when I try to comfort him… Anyways I would really appreciate any help that anyone could offer! Thanks a lot!!
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May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
I can see where he would get upset over the situation.
FIRST, he needs to go to a Men’s Health doctor or a good urologists. One of the first things he needs is a test for Testosterone. It sure sounds like it is very low. Its just a blood test. He does need to get a complete workup on his body.
He may not want to tell a doctor he has problems, but the doctor hears it all the time. Tell your B/F to "bite the bullet" and get to a doctor. I really believe its his Testosterone.
If that doesn’t help, he may have to get some counseling. Could be something in his past has him shut down.
Good luck. Pops
May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
There are so many products on the market today to help with your bf’s problem. I would suggest a checkup with a urologist just to make sure nothing is wrong physically and then the doctor should be able to recommend a product for him. He should not have to worry about his performance at his age and seeing a doctor will give him peace of mind.
May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
Erectile Dysfunction
How is it treated?
The first step in the treatment of erectile dysfunction is a physical examination. This is done to rule out disorders such as diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, kidney disease, alcoholism, or multiple sclerosis, which can cause erectile dysfunction. It is estimated that physical diseases or conditions are the cause of erectile dysfunction approximately 70% of the time.
An important part of the evaluation should be a detailed patient history, which can give the doctor valuable clues about the patient’s condition and the degree of severity of the condition. Usually, the doctor will ask about sexual activity and carefully discuss all of the patient’s symptoms, which may help determine if the patient is having problems with erection, ejaculation, orgasm, or sexual desire. The treatment of erectile dysfunction is tailored to the individual, with the severity and cause of the erectile dysfunction taken into account.
Prescription medications like Viagra (sildenafil), Levitra (vardenafil), and Cialis (tadalafil) are frequently prescribed, but vacuum devices, penile implants, and vascular surgery are also options. It may also be helpful for some patients to receive some form of psychotherapy as well.
Vacuum devices are non-drug options for treating erectile dysfunction. The device creates a vacuum around the penis, which draws blood into the penis and allows it to engorge, hence causing an erection. The devices are made up of three parts: a plastic cylinder that is placed over the penis; a pump which draws air out of the cylinder; and an elastic band which is placed around the base of the penis to maintain erection after the cylinder is removed and during intercourse to keep the penis engorged with blood.
Penile prosthesis/implants are another non-drug option for treating erectile dysfunction. These implants can be surgically embedded into the scrotum as an alternative to drug therapy or vacuum devices. Fluid is pumped from a retropubic reservoir (a “holding chamber”) into hallow cylinders placed within the corpora cavernosa (the 2 chambers inside the penis). The inflation and deflation of the hallow cylinders can be done by the patient as desired. An easy way to think about it is that penile implants function similarly to putting water into a latex balloon. As water is put into a balloon, the balloon expands (much like pumping fluid into the hallow cylinders of the penile implant makes the penis become erect). As water is let out of the balloon, the balloon deflates (much like deflating the fluid from the penile implants then makes the penis become flaccid again). Penile implants have a high satisfaction rate with patients. However, complications of the penile implant include infections, which can lead to the removal of the prosthesis. The cost of treating an infected prosthesis can actually exceed the cost of the original implant.
Vascular Surgery is another non-drug option for this disorder. Surgery can be performed to restore blood flow to the penile area if the vasculature (blood vessels) to the area is compromised. Penile implants can be surgically embedded into the scrotum as an alternative to drug therapy or vacuum devices. These types of surgeries have fallen out of favor in recent years due to the possible risk of infection associated with such invasive procedures. As a result, prescription medications have become the treatment of choice for erectile dysfunction.
Psychological therapy and behavior modifications are other options to treat erectile dysfunction. This method targets any anxiety that may be associated with sexual intercourse. If your doctor feels this is an issue for you, a visit to a psychologist or psychiatrist may be warranted.
Along with Viagra, two other drugs are also available for treating ED. Levitra (vardenafil) was approved by the FDA for the treatment of erectile dysfunction in August 2003 and Cialis (tadalafil) was approved in November 2003. Each of the three drugs is effective for ED. One advantage Cialis offers though is a longer duration of action. Cialis has been shown to improve erectile function for up to 36 hours following dosing. This allows for more flexibility in planning sexual intercourse.
May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
There is usually an underlying cause for this especially in one so young.
Does he smoke?
Does he use drugs?
Does he take medications?
If he does one of the above especially smoking and drugs… he can give that up and get his hard on back.. if he takes medication for something else he can talk to his doc
May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
the little blue pill is the deal.
Go to the Doc and get some samples and also a check up.
Embarrassed and mad worries me. Man up and go, if not for his self then for you.
I got guys at work that take it for fun, but then again, I work with a bunch of fire fighters.
May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
Your bf has psychological problems that need to be treated.
May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
He sounds very stressed about this whole situation. He has to change the way he looks at things with you otherwise the problem will always be there. If he truly loves you there should be no problem. He should learn to relax, Have a couple of drinks and if he is a non-drinker that a message of hot tub to relax. Sex should be spontaneous not planned. For him it seems he is under pressure to perform. You say he love you but does he also lust for you. If it is okay there then look at his health, weight. Have him drink lots of water. To give proper advise I would need more info about both of you mental and physically.
May 20th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
He needs to see a doctor, preferably a urologist. There are drugs on the market other than Viagra but they are available only with a prescription. The other problem could be psychological in which case a therapist could help.