okay.. weve only been seeing eachother for a while and there is no doubt a high physical attraction between eachother .. problem is he sometimes has.. problems.. i was at his house the other day and saw a prescription bottle by his bed and picked it up and was curious what it was so i went home and googled it.. its an antidepressent with common side effects of sexual dysfunction. how do i tell him i know whats causing it?!?!?! i really dont think he wants me to know i know he is "depressed" which i dont think he seems to be since weve been dating… maybe im what he needed.. he doesnt know i saw his pills.. and thats a tough one to explain.. but im pretty positive he is making no conection between his "problems" and his medication. me being the nurse i am… am. how do i bring up such an awkward issue?!!?!?!?
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November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
what you should NOT do is make out with him to the point that an ED is noticeable ,Then stare and giggle like a third grader.That would br KRULE
But you could have your Druggist give you the written description of his MDS and underline the needed info. he DEF needs to know. I can ,from personal Experience, tell you it is not a thing we like to share with our intended lovers. Even though THAT may not make a bit of difference to them. I have chosen to continue on the Paxil and compensate my partner with a LOT of )0( rgasmic foreplay and a replay of the Foreplay with a kiss and a promise of "Better timesacommin"’ once a month I go off paxil for 4 days and use "little Blue lead pencils" just for HER pleasure. [OK so I enjoy seeing the old boy reach for the BRASS RING too]. a personal best for me is to watch her do the dance of 7 veils with her face as the mast pops her birth canal open[Cervix] and makes her pee on me at the same second. She is nice about it and never tells me it is BETTER than the 40 lashes with a wet noodle, that I use to finish a good night the rest of the month. She has been MULTI since 13 by any method that "snaps her cap" so foreplay is 0K by her. But my tongue/fingers/bridge of k-nose even a FOOT.are just k-not qu-ite the same as my three cell flashlight. turned on by "Viagra"
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
This is too easy.
Just one day bring up the topic of the dysfunction and tell him that you spoke to your "pharmacist cousin" and that she told you that sexual dysfunction is a very common side affect of many medicines. This is probably bullshit but you can just say it to give him the hunch that his antidepressant medication may be causing it.
Just innocently ask if he’s taking any allergy medicines that may have caused it. He’ll say nothing about his antidepressent medicine but will realize that it could be that medication thats causing the dysfunction.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
just tell him
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
throw them away so he dosen’t have to worry
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
"There’s a lot of medicines that can cause problems, have you been prescribed anything for any reason?"
Ask him that and he might put two and two together about the medicine, but he’ll think you still don’t know till he wants you too.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Can you talk to him about his "dysfunction"? If you can just ask him if he’s on any medicine. Tell him that certain kinds can do that. Even if he doesn’t admit to taking the medicine, he’ll make the connection.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
If you guys sleep on the same bed or if you’re ever in his room, just "coincidently" find the bottle and ask him about it, being as nice and accepting as possible. If he truly wants you to know about his depression, he will talk. Then you can bring up the ED.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
I think you should give him time, thy to earn more trust and just wait for him to open up… maybe if you push it the problem gets worse.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
uh well i guess don’t worry about it much till the next time he has "problems." then maybe let him know that you saw his pills and that he should talk to his doctor and see if he really needs them anymore or if he can get off of them.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
wait for him to tell you if he trusts you he will tell you eventally. or when something os wrong with him just kind of ask him wahts wrong. tell him is ther anything you want to tell me. ask him questions that lead up to the pills
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
just say a friend was on the same perscription, and had the same problem due to it. then suggest you look it up on the internet and show him the listed side effects
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
ok well you two need to discuss it like two adults… i think you can tell him that his problem can be related to let’s say him taking medications, and give him a list of other possible reasons, so im sure when you say that he’ll realize that the pills could be the possible cause.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Just tell him you saw those antidepressants pills…there’s no biggie really….just sit him down and tell him what you saw and that you know about his depression….he should know that you’re concerned.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
just make a comment that you know that certain types of prescription medications are cause for this and ask him if he is taking anything. whether he offers you that information or not then you basically told him what the possible cause is because he is fully aware that he is taking the medication
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
i suggest asking him what the problem may be and if he says he doesnt know ask him if hes been taking medication and then ask him about the side effects. Thatll surely do it. But oh, do it like an actress, dont be too obvious that you know the answer and youre squeezing it out of him..!
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
well, if you are a good girl which i think…
you must explain this to him.
me and my girl talk about everything….even embarrassing matters.
we make it funny, but; we learn from each other.
it’s your job to help him if you can…at least talk…he will respect and appreciate your help…
trust me…
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
if he’s taking an anitdepressant, he knows he’s depressed.
and instead of telling him you found the medicine, ask him if he takes any medication regularly. say that you read that tons of medicines have this side effect. if he takes this medicine, he will make the connection himself.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
I had a similar situation happen to me. Just talk to him avoiding that topic bring it up softly. Be like hun i notice sometimes things aren’t functioning to there full potential. Tell him you’ve had problems of your own before. Ask him if hes stressed. Stress can be a cause. Or ask him if he has been sick or taking medicine. Tell him straight up that sometimes it effects sexdrive or sensitivity. I think this way he can put 2 and 2 together. If he won’t tell you straight up about the medicine maybe he will ask to be switched or try not taking it.
Lots of time depression is all mental and pills are given to everyone and there dog.
hope this helps.
i would say just casually bring it up but not directly, hes your bf you have a right to be a lil concerned. tell him you’ll give him a backrub to destress him. haha
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
maybe you do not notice him being depressed since he is taking his medication which is suposed to fix that kind of problem..
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
If you appraoch him the right way and are supportive he won’t care that you know. As for his erectile dysfunction anitdepressants can cause it however there is a natural amino acid that he can take to help it is called l-arginine and you can get it for like $3 and change at walmart!! It helps I promise you my bf has problems with ED and this amino acid increases blood flow and circualtion and it’s good for his heart. If his ED really bothers him sit down and google info together it might help him to know that you are supportive and he’ll open up to you.
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
it’s not an awkward issue.
he probably left it FOR you to find it
talk!!!!!!!!!
November 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Here is the best few ways to handle this: First one is to casually mention that you were looking up sexual problems on the internet, to try to figure out what was wrong with him. Tell him that most "sexual problems such as his" result from change in diet, sleeping haits, increased stress, or medication." That would be a great time for him to mention it without having to say "by the way, guess what I found when I went snooping the other day?!"