my wife keeps demanding sexual activity, but im gay and i dont know how to tell her
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February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
wow your probably not gay… and you probably suck at paintball… you are probably a 14 year kid who has nothing better to do but to go on yahoo answers and post bogus questions….
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
It is the "Giving Season" …..
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
oh wow, you better tell her gently
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Well, just find a guy and have sex with him when you know she will catch you. I think she’ll get the hint…
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
If your gay then why in Hell did you marry her and be so unfair by robbing her of a life filled with love and enjoyment….shame on you for being so selfish.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
the sooner you tell her the sooner the rest of both of your lives can start…i wouldnt put it off any longer for both your sakes…
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
I feel bad for her… how long were you together before you realised you were gay.
for now tell her your wangs broken. If she can fix it, maybe you still have some straight left
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
just tell her easy… in a night that she wants sex…u tell her u just cant.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Funny thing about where we are as a country. If I had posted the opposite to this question in the gay lesbian section, I’d likely have my account deleted.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
oh for crying outloud. stand up and tell her. she is living a lie and you need to set it straight, if you care about her.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
I hope you are joking.
Telling your wife you are gay would defintely lower her self esteem! Why do you guys who, be honest, knew you were attracted to men, get married in the first place? Just tell her as delicate as possilbe. Let her move on with her life.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
You are bisexual and you need to tell her your feelings. Kicking the can down the road will not solve the crisis you have with her.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Then why did you marry her? Be honest with her and with yourself, it’s not going to be easy.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
why did you get married in the first place if your gay? sorry had to ask.. But you really need to tell her and stop leading her on to a marriage that means nothing to you anymore just tell her honey i like boys not girls anymore sorry Merry Christmas,
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Don’t tell her! I’m sure that will break her heart. Leave her and let her wonder why. In this case I can’t see how the truth would be better than wondering.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Why did you marry this women did you not understand the meaning of marriage? What is the purpose of your marrying her. You must tell her and give her the chance to decide if she wants to stay married. Suppose she wants a family ,I don’t know what you were thinking did you think that fact that you are gay would not come up , give the girl a break tell her whats going on.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
You must have had sex with her in the past and you are married so of course she is going to expect sexual activity….if you have now realized you are gay then tell her and let her move on with her life and be with a man who wants to be with her in every way.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Good for you!
..you probably love her so don’t you ever tell her!
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
I do not think it matters how you tell her. No matter what you do, it is going to be extremely difficult and you will end up divorced.
The best thing you can do is to sit her down and tell her that you have been conflicted for years and have realized that you are not heterosexual. You can then explain to her that you are now fully aware that you are gay. That would be a gentle way of telling her.
No matter how you tell her, she is going to be very upset, but she needs to know. You both need to move on and you cannot do that as long as you hide your sexuality from your wife.
Take care,
Troy
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
oh, my . she has every right to know this first and formost. tell her now and help her ( if she wants your help ) getting into another home. she will be hurt cause everybody knows this & not her. to be on the safe side you both need to get checked for any diseases . before seperation .
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Than why on earth did you marry her in the first place!!!and never told her beforehand….
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
just f-ing do it and MAN UP! sheesh..you rather her become insecure and depressed, you selfish ass!
sit her down and just DO IT! and it’s gonna hurt. she’s gonna cry. she might even hit you. she might tell the world you’re gay. but hey, it’s the price you pay when you marry a woman when you’re attracted to men. dont leave her hanging, if you have any love for this woman at all, you will get off this f-ing computer and tell her TODAY!
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
How long have you been married? do you have any kids? did you know you were gay before you got married? just becarefull when you tell her. Don’t let it be a Christmas gift cause that will be the worst thing ever. But seriously you need to tell her NOW. cause you not only hurting her you are hurting everyone around both of you. Oh and are you having an affair?
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Please don’t hide from yourself. You are only hurting the both of you. I know in today’s society being gay can mean being ostracized but life is too short to be unhappy. Live your life as you see fit. There is no need to try and please the people around you. Those that truly love you, will still love you. Those that turn their back on you, you don’t need in your life anyway, even though you may miss them. When you can accept and love yourself for who you are, only then will you begin to attract people who will love and accept you. This is the only life we have on this planet. God wants you to be happy. Forget all that guilt crap that religion teaches. He made you the way you are. He loves you the way he made you. Love yourself first and the rest of the world will love you too! Good luck, the road ahead will be bumpy until you turn that corner. Then you’ll find yourself on new asphalt with only a pebble or two here and there. LIVE YOUR LIFE, LOVE THE LIFE YOU LIVE!!!
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
forgive me for saying this, but it was rather selfish of you marrying this lady.If you where gay to begin with u shouldn’t taken this sacred oath with her
anyway i think you owe her this by telling her the real you
<<< good luck>>
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
This can’t possibly be a real situation, but what the heck… Do her anally, you should feel right at home.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
You should of laid everything on the table, before you married her. If you had doubts before you got married, you should of waited. I really feel bad for her. She will be heart broken. You really need to talk to her, and tell her how you feel.
Good luck!!
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
OH my! well i am not the one to judge anybody…But you really need to tell her asap. I know you may not want to hurt her but its better out in the open so then you both can go on and live happily…By you not telling her that will just make her more angry and more confusion…Do you have kids with her? if so, go see a counselor and they will tell you the best way to tell her. good luck and God bless always.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
hey mate.. i got best idea…. just tell her to come on this page and read it =]
ella re is she hot?? =p lol
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Stop living this sham. It isn’t fair to either of you. You are unhappy and she is unhappy. Do not continue to lie to your wife about this, the longer you stretch it out the harder it is on her. On top of that all the diseases you are exposing her to if you sexually active with men, that is just wrong!
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
wow the drama,,, man u really r a queen,,
lmao
sorry man
but seriously how did u end up married if ur gay,, well u need to sit her down n tell her
oh n if u just realised ur a homo,, then u just need to realise that prob u aint gay but wanna be penetrated in the rear area,,, if this is so then let her use a dildo or something on u but if u just plain out attracted to men,, then thats really messed up
n expect a kick in the nuts or a punch to the face n if u guys have alot of assets together she gonna leave u broke,,
sorry man
n good lluck
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
My next door neighbors my whole life lived this way and stayed married. They had 3 children together, and the mother admitted that they only had sex 3 times ever. The children had no idea what was going on. She had a boyfriend that she said was just a friend, who spent every single day at her house. He had a boyfriend, but would go out to meet him. The kids involved were devastated when they put 2 and 2 together. One of the sons tried to commit suicide because he couldn’t handle that his whole life was a lie. I don’t want to condone this and say for you to stay together. I guess that my point is that no matter how hard it is for you to tell her, it would be harder to continue to live this lie. I grew up with the children involved, and they are seriously messed up. They all agree that it would have been easier to know what was going on. None of them learned how to show affection and love. They all have messed up relationships now and they always will. Don’t get me wrong though. I love each and every one of them, they are all wonderful people. Just ….. different.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
From all the guys who’s wives won’t/don’t put out my message to you is – what a waste…
You suck for being dishonest with her.
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
How about honesty? You can’t be happy lying every day of your life, right? How long do you feel like living the charade?
February 18th, 2010 at 7:04 pm
Thats screwed up why would you marry a women if your gay. Of course your shes going to want intamcy she your damn wife. You need to tell her, marrying someone to hide your sexuality is messed up. You are an SOB.