i have been sexually abused by my brother…and found out that it can affect a person when they reach their teens or adulthood…
i got this from a site:
When sexual abuse has occurred, a child can develop a variety of distressing feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.
A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and can become suicidal. Personality disorders, such as Dissociative Identity Disorder (also known as Multiple Personality Disorder) have been linked to sexual abuse.
or have other serious problems when they reach adulthood.
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Children who are abused may:
* Display disruptive behaviors such as using alcohol and street drugs or engaging in high-risk sexual behaviors
* Do poorly in school
* Have excessive fears
* Withdraw from normal activities
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Evidence suggests that the negative psychological impact of child sexual abuse persists over time, often into adulthood. Potential long-term effects of child sexual abuse include depression, anxiety, posttraumatic stress disorder, sexual dysfunction, and substance abuse. Further, among the female adult outpatient population, individuals with sexual abuse histories as children were twice as likely to attempt suicide than their non-abused counterparts. Across the lifespan, individuals who were sexually abused as children are four times more likely to be at risk for developing a psychiatric disorder and are about three times more likely to abuse substances than their non-abused counterparts
* Anger
* Fear
* Homosexuality Issues
* Helplessness
* Isolation and Alienation
* Legitimacy
* Loss
* Masculinity Issues
* Negative Childhood Peer Relations
* Negative Schemas about People
* Negative Schemas about the Self
* Problems with Sexuality
* Self Blame/Guilt
* Shame/Humiliation
* Anxiety
* Depression
* Dissociation
* Hostility and anger
* Impaired relationships
* Low self-esteem
* Sexual dysfunction
* Sleep disturbance
* Suicidal ideas and behavior
* Guilt and self-blame
Lew, 1988; Myers, 1989; Hunter, 1990.
* Low self-esteem and negative self-image
Lew, 1988; Myers, 1989.
* Problems with intimacy
Bruckner & Johnson, 1987; Dimock, 1988; Lew, 1988; Krug, 1989; Hunter, 1990.
* Sexual problems, compulsions, or dysfunctions
Bruckner & Johnson, 1987; Johnson & Shrier, 1987; Dimock, 1988; Lew, 1988; Myers, 1989; Hunter, 1990.
* Substance abuse and depression
Krug, 1989.
* Symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Myers, 1989.
* Attempts to "prove" their masculinity by having multiple female sexual partners, sexually victimizing others, and/or engaging in dangerous or violent behaviors
* Confusion over their gender and sexual identities
* Sense of being inadequate as men
* Sense of lost power, control, and confidence in their manhood
Finally, some clinicians have noted that sexually abused males often experience confusion and distress about their sexuality:
* Confusion about their own sexual orientation
* Fear that the sexual abuse has caused or will cause them to become homosexual
Homophobia, an irrational fear or intolerance of homosexuality
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March 7th, 2010 at 4:20 am
First and most importantly, you NEED to prevent this from happening ever again. Whatever it is you have to do, do it. (Just don’t kill him.) Do not be embarrassed to tell people about this. Your physical and mental health is far more important then your rep or your ego.
Your brother is a punk and he should not be doing this to you. Shows how much he cares.
Report him to the police if you have to.
Secondly, you should get help if you EVER feel like you might even want it. There are many people who suffer from sexual abuse but it CAN be treated.
Third, your mentality is of most importance. We create our own reality with our beliefs. If you think you’re going to have problems because of this, I guarantee you will. Mental strength is essential to happiness in general. You cannot be at peace if your mind is not at ease. Stay positive and remember attitude is a choice. Think positive thoughts daily. As cheesy as it sounds, you have to believe in yourself. It’s gonna be okay as long as you don’t let yourself be a victim. Take charge. Only YOU can make the real difference.
March 7th, 2010 at 4:20 am
It’s affected me beyond belief.
March 7th, 2010 at 4:20 am
i get sexually abused by my girlfriend all of the time. Its hard to get over. She always forces my to have sex with her in the middle of the night and when i dont she starts rubbing my penis. its horrible. I can never get any sleep.
As for you. You need to tell your brother that you remember that shxx and beat him up. make him feel as gulty as possible. I know people say dont run away from your problems but its different if you confront it and then run away. You dont want that in the back of your mind. So confront the problem then get away from it. Id suggest finishing high school and applying for a college far away from home. Dont tell your parents though. Thats not going to fix anything
March 7th, 2010 at 4:20 am
It made me insanely depressed. My assailent was my older brother as well. It eventually got to the point that I became ‘insane’ in all meaning. I had to be hospitalized to keep me from killing my family and was giving meds and diagnosed and released.
It makes me mad that nobody was there, nobody stopped him, nobody helped me. I couldn’t concentrate in classes and started failing. I became a loner and didn’t want relationships. I only have about 1 or 2 close friends. I put up with a bad relationship with an ex boyfriend who beat me and guilted me into sex I didn’t want. I feel guilty or violated after sexual encounters now. I just, I’m different.