Ok, so first thing, I use my vibrator ALOT and now it seems to take me forever to climax and I cannot seem to do it without it. When my bf performs oral, its good, but its not my vibrator so I usually cant orgasm. Should I stop using vibrators? Second thing, my bf is more sexually experienced than I am, he’s had threesomes, foursomes, etc. and I haven’t had any of the above. We have the greatest relationship-we were friends before we got involved with each other. But now it seems as sex is getting stale for us. I can be a freaky person, when its brought out of me. I’m not that creative so I don’t know what else to do. We talk about this stuff all the time, but I want to surprise him with something different. I’m not ready to do the threesome thing because I’ve heard good and bad things about doing that. Any suggestions? I love him and he loves me and I just want to make sure we are both sexually fufulling each others’ needs. Help!
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January 11th, 2010 at 8:34 pm
I would cut back on the vibrator for a while. It tends to desensitize you, which is why you’re having problems. When you cut back, you should start to "operate" better.
Don’t have a threesome; it’s not worth your relationship. Someone will end up hurt.
Some suggestions:
- Cook him dinner … naked.
- Show up to his office in a trench coat and nothing else.
- Jump him when he walks in the door.
- While watching a movie at home, give him oral sex. Don’t ask, just do it.
Think of something you haven’t done, and do it. Blindfold him, tie him up, blindfold yourself, fantasy role play, whatever!
January 11th, 2010 at 8:34 pm
Buy a kama sutra book and suggest every night for a week you open to a random page and try something new.
About the vibrator thing… I just found that if I use the same one over and over then it does seem to take forever. I just have three around at all times, just in case one doesn’t do it for me, I can switch it up. I also haven’t been able to orgasm from my partner since he got lazy and bought me my first one. It’s hard for a man to compete with those vibrating pieces of plastic that just don’t give up, don’t get tired, and know exactly where to go and what to do. I’d suggest just letting him use the vibrator on you. Of course, it may take a lot longer that way, but at least he’ll be participating. Keep in mind, a man gets off much faster when he’s giving himself a hand job. It’s the same for you.