A friend of mine is having a little problem in the bedroom and asked for advice, but I’m not sure exactly what to say. I’ve never heard of a problem like this, or at least not in young men he’s only 18. I thought of suggesting viagra but, I think that is more for middle age men + who have a definite sexual dysfunction. He recently started dating this girl he really likes. But, when it comes time for them to engage in a little bedroom activity he finds himself not being able to “get it up”. And, the girl he is seeing will not give oral or her hands to stimulate him enough, I thought of maybe suggesting he watch porn if that could turn him off, but his erection could disappear before anything was able to happen and some girls may find watching porn offensive. I don’t know what to tell him, but I’d like to help him. Since I’m a woman I have no idea..Have any good suggestions on what he can do?
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August 23rd, 2009 at 1:00 pm
See his doctor. He might have low testosterone. It happens to some men and a simple patch on the arm takes care of it.
August 23rd, 2009 at 1:00 pm
I had the same problem jus couldnt get it up. Then I told my girlfriend to give me a bj and that thing got hard quick.
August 23rd, 2009 at 1:00 pm
It sounds to me that he is not sexually stimulated by this girl. I have been in situations where I wanted sex but wasn’t so hot about the person and it’s tough to keep it up, whereas I have been so attracked to a person that a kiss will have me pitchin a bigtop lol. Also if he is using a condom that can lessen sensitivity and he could lose the erection that way as well.
Another idea is if he is on any medications?? Some medicines will cause erectile disfunction. So he should ask his doctor if he is taking any medicines as to what side effects they have.
August 23rd, 2009 at 1:00 pm
I would guess that this is anxiety.
Does all the equipment work OK in masturbation? Not a physical problem of so.
Viagra is not the right answer as it would create dependency. It might mean that he is not really into the girl, not ready yet, afraid of disappointing her, afraid of not being good enough or something like that.
I would suggest wait, be patient and see what happens. If it’s the right girl and they are patient it will probably sort itself. If it doesn’t then I would suggest finding an EFT practitioner, or some other therapy to deal with the nerves.
August 23rd, 2009 at 1:00 pm
yeah, it sound that the girl he is with is not turning him on. foreplay is not just for woman, its for man too.
August 23rd, 2009 at 1:00 pm
get off the drugs and alcohol no weed this causes many of the problems for the young if not working still see a urologist