this is a bit embarrasing but i have had e.d. from the first time i ever had sex. i am only 23 and keeping an erection is such a dificult task sex is almost not worth all the work. now im embarrased to say as a kid i was a constant masturbator. i still do that somtimes but not an extream amount like when i was about 13 or 14. i am concerned that all of that regular masturbatin when i was young could have made me less sensitive. becouse i dont relly feel stimulated during inercourse. thats probly why there is e.d. happaning here. however. i have less problems when alone. still have issues somtimes but its alot easier. another thing i find odd. is i cant reach a climax unless im laying flat on my back. that also kind of makes sex boring. after reciving oral sex about 7 years ago. sorry to be graphic but neither one of us relly knew what we were doing and i got some irritation from one of the girls teeth. once agin sorry for the details that place has ben slightly darker than the skin around it ever since. that it probly the least sensitive place i have. you could probly stab it with a needle and i would feel nuthing. im worried that all of these bad habbits in my younger days has caused loss of sensitivity resulting in e.d. im afraid maybe some scaring that this is a permanant thing. what can i do to help sensitivity? if i stop sex all together for an extended period of time will the sensitivity return? the ongest i have gone without sex is two weeks. i dont know if that would be enough time to tell if abstanance would help. any sugestions on how i can fix my little problem???? my doctor has dismissed the problem because he only wanted to perscribe pills like viagra. and i dont take pills of anykind unless ill die if i dont. i guess you could say im a natural health freak. i dont trust man made chemicals to say the least. i have good reason not too. anyways any thoughts???
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February 2nd, 2010 at 11:15 am
you might have to go beyond your primary care doctor and into a specialist, or you might just need to relax- if it happened the very first time you had intercourse, you might be freaking yourself out over and over because you’re afraid of that happening again- anxiety and erections don’t mix.
also, if you’re still masturbing alot now, maybe you should chill out a bit too, and if you’re masturbating to porn, calm that down too. the problem the hypermasturbation or watching excessive amounts of porn is that it continuously raises the bar at which you’d be aroused.
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:15 am
Things that go into your erection:
Physical – stimuli and your body responds by increased heart rate, blood to the penis.
Mental — Peace of mind, confidence, high libido (desire for sex)
If your mental state is in opposition to the physical you’ll experience sexual problems. Your past has nothing to do with your problem now. Since you’re still virginal it may be that you are still a bit anxious regarding sex. Try taking it slow, use foreplay.
Your health can also effect erections. High diets of sugars, caffeine, alcohol, drugs like marijuana, and high fats all cause weak erections by either a.) creating heart issues that impede the heart’s ability to pump blood and b.) vein constriction which makes it difficult for your penis to fill with blood.
There’s a great book to read. It’s for couples and it’s just fantastic! It’s called Sexual Pleasure by Dr. Barbara Keesling. There are lots of sensual exercises that works for foreplay and masturbation and sex games and intimacy games. It’s just a really fun book with a chapter dedicated on stronger erections and another on lasting longer.
Also practice your PC exercises. Google Kegel Exercises for more information on how to do these easy pleasurable exercises.
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:15 am
O.K. so your 23 and you need to learn punctuation.
Your problem is that you are a WORRIER.
That’s it.
Guilt & Worry. = No erection.
Plus you are not turned on by your girlfriend
No = It isn’t the masturbation
No = it isn’t the porn
No = it isn’t whatever it is that you are constantly apologising for but is really pretty normal.
Just relax. Sex is supposed to be fun.
Not all this guilty worrying about "bad habits" you actually don’t have.
Relax – play with it – it’ll work.