In popular understanding, people are assumed to be born either (1) heterosexual, (2) homosexual, (3) bisexual, or (4) asexual. When there is sexual arousal to objects, situations, or individuals that are not part of those four “normative” sources, it’s called paraphilia – a type of psychological disorder.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias
Why don’t people seriously consider the possibility that we’re only born with a libido, but how it is expressed is a matter of social learning? And if sexual preference is entirely genetic, why don’t we include all of the alternative sexualities described in the link above?
@AdamKadmon: I’m not suggesting that you woke up on one fine Sunday morning and just decided to be homosexual (or whatever). I’m simply saying that your sexual preference could be considered a product of your unique upbringing, early childhood experiences, and later social interactions. And once it is set, I’d agree it’s practically impossible to change one’s sexual preference.
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December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
We are not born with sexuality. It develops, just the same way that our bodies and our genitals develop. "Born this way" is a myth, meant to increase acceptance, but at the price of scientific literacy.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
Humans are born straight. They choose to sin.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
Being asexual must suck…
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
what sexuality am i that it makes me vomit violently for realz?
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
You’re leaving out deisexual
A sexual attraction to GODS.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
Asexual that’s pretty strange but hey I don’t believe they deserve to be tortured forever so…
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
Exactly…
…though, I do not doubt people are born with sexual ‘preferences’ those ‘preferences’ should not be divided into ‘lust for human’ or ‘lust for what isn’t human.’ Any sexual ‘preference’ that is expressed outside of marriage – which is between a man and a woman, is all the same – sexual immorality.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
I never made a choice. It simply always was. You may not like that, but I don’t care.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
Because orientation and fetish are not the same? And a person with a fetish probably still indulges in it according to their orientation?
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
i had my own theory as a teenager;
gender is on a sliding scale
Male hermapherodite Female
sexual orientation is on a sliding scale
homosexual asexual hetrosexual
And then when I was married to a man I found out I was not at the end of the gender scale!
So perhaps, spiritually speaking we all have our own understandings that apply to who we are, and that being said should be respectful of others who find their way is an alternate one with a different theory.
I’m really greatful for my childish theory, it kept me from being pushed completely over the edge as a "woman" in my 20s.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
There is a whole spectrum of sexual orientations. See the Kinsey scale.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
People can’t be asexual. Asexual means that they can reproduce by themselves. All animals are attracted to hormones, it’s not as much genetics as it is a "birth defect", in the womb we are all female but then according to what chromosomes we get from our father (X or Y) we are male or female, so when something goes wrong it isn’t put into the brain that they should like males or females.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
Sexuality is a multidimensional continuum. Each humyn lies somewhere along GLBTA axes.
December 7th, 2011 at 12:11 am
The definitions you are talking about are man-made, and humans don’t always understand everything. Nobody fits perfectly into any category, even though they prefer to think of it in black and white terms. Another thing I’d like to point out is that sexual preference is not genetic. Our sex (male or female) is genetically determined, but our gender (whom we identify as) is a whole different story. There’s millions of combinations of what you can be; people tend to over-simplify things..it’s what our brain does.