Let’s suppose I was lonely and wanted human warmth. But I could not experience human warmth because I was unable to date. If I went to a legal prostitute, like in Nevada, for non-sexual services would women still frown on this? By non-sexual I mean only hugging, holding hands and possibly a dinner date. But no intercourse, stimulation or even kissing. I know there’s a stigma for going to a prostitute, I’m curious if this would still persist if it was a completely non-sexual experience that had no bodily fluid transfer or genital interaction. The session would be just to experience friendly touch and warmth of another human being.
If you’re asking why not just go on a date or get a girlfriend, my response is I’d like to and prefer to. But I’m a diagnosed social phobic. The sheer anxiety of socializing can be dreadful and cause panic attack symptoms. As a result intimate experience is purely out of my reach right now. I even struggle with making friends. Using a prostitute to experience human warmth would be a last resort.
If you’re asking why not have sex with a prostitute, my response is sex isn’t purely what I want. What I want is to experience friendly human touch with another warm body.
So would there still be a stigma about going to a prostitute and not using them for sex? Would women still look down on a guy who did this? I’m willing to accept that some things will always have a stigma, I don’t try fighting against entrenched ideas. I’m just curious if there would be any leeway here.
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March 2nd, 2010 at 10:00 am
It depends on the person. I personally don’t care. Even if you were having wild fetish sex, you aren’t in a relationship and therefore not hurting anyone. There are some people that will look down on you for supporting a prostitute even if it is not sexual in nature. The people that care don’t matter, I doubt you would be friends with them anyways. It isn’t something anyone has to know.
I would have to say that in my opinion most girls would be crazy to think you are doing something inherently wrong. Good Luck!
March 2nd, 2010 at 10:00 am
I am not judging you and am able to understand your desire to be with another person. However, the thing you need to realize is that a huge percentage of prostitutes are not prostitutes by choice. Either they became prostitutes by socioeconomic factors, money for drug addictions, or the common popular way now which is by force (human trafficking). With all that said, you would be short changing yourself because her reciprocation would not be genuine and you would just be another notch in her miserable enslaved life of the things that she is forced to do. Now how can you "feel warmth" if you are engaging in an unethical thing that would hurt another human being?
March 2nd, 2010 at 10:00 am
if you need human interaction that bad, go get yourself one of these non-sexual prostitutes and get it over with. I must warn you never to tell anyone you did this…not anyone not ever. Women do not like this trust me (personal experience).