I used to have a surging, robust sexual drive. It was absolutely off the charts. I felt like Kennedy on crack, with my throbbing 7 inch springing to life every time I laid eyes on a curvy figure or a cute face. Then, one day, I lost it all. I was listening to head phones too loudly and punctured a hole in my ear drum.
To make a long story short, the whole healed and my hearing is perfect now but I developed an inner ear disorder called eustachian tube dysfunction. It is chronic. It was very painful at first but now I just hear a slight pop in my ears each time I swallow.
I’ve been on decongestants galore and I’m ninety percent cured of the disease…just judging by how I feel.
YET. One terrible thing happened to me, which may or may not be related to the ear disease.
My masturbation sessions began to hurt. Every time I ejaculated I felt pain throughout my body.
Don’t tell me it had nothing to do with ETD because it did…in those early days at least.
Then one day, I closed my eyes and dreamed of the rockstar chick, of my dreams I shot the most monstrous load of my life cause I was fantasizing about butt f***king her over a heap of coke.
Ever since that masturbation session, my sex drive has been virtually dead.
I was 22 years old.
I have tried everything to bring my sex drive back….psych meds. exercise, hookers, dance parties, and a girlfriend or two. I’m now 28 and I still go weeks at a time without feeling any sexual arousal.
If you know anything about the link between chronic pain and sex drive disorders please help.
If you know anything about how to revitalize sexual energy after the libido had died due to past genital pain, then please help.
If you know anything AT ALL about how a twenty something man can rejuvenate his sex drive, please help.
My erections are still strong and normal but I don’t feel any sexual energy. I just get a hard on in a very mechanical, disconnected way.
And I don’t get erect as often as a I used to.
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June 24th, 2010 at 4:14 am
This all sounds as though it relates to either circumstantial depression (related to your ear disorder) or chemical depression (which would be unrelated); this is mostly indicated by your sudden coldness or emotional detachment from sex.
As this started at around the same time as when your ear pain was acute, circumstantial depression sounds most likely; your low sex drive is probably acutely connected to this and compounded by a fear of pain, which you might now, subconsciously, associate with orgasm.
To resolve this, you need to see your doctor; after a brief consult, he may decide to prescribe antidepressants (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors), this should help reset your neurological feel-good hormones back to the levels they were before this started.
The pain you experienced on orgasm sounds like dysorgasmia and was probably ppsychosomaticand caused by your heightened stress and fear of pain at the time, or it might have been what I’d describe as orgasm induced hyper algesia, either way, it sounds like it’s improved now, but mention it at your appointment.
Butt fcuking over a heap of coke? 10 out of 10 for imagination, but maybe don’t mention that part to the doctor!
Hope it works out for you.
June 24th, 2010 at 4:14 am
try leaving the Coke alone for a start
June 24th, 2010 at 4:14 am
Erectile dysfunction can be caused by any number of physical and psychological factors. In general, ED is divided into organic (having to do with a bodily organ or organ system) and psychogenic (mental) impotence, but most men with organic causes have a mental or psychological component as well.
Erection problems will usually produce a significant psychological and emotional reaction in most men. This is often described as a pattern of anxiety and stress that can further interfere with normal sexual function. This "performance anxiety" needs to be recognized and addressed by your doctor.
Erectile Process
To understand what causes erectile dysfunction or ED, it is important to first review how an erection occurs. For a man to have an erection, a complex process takes place within the body.
* An erection involves the central nervous system, the peripheral nervous system, psychological and stress-related factors, local factors with the erection bodies or the penis itself, as well as hormonal and vascular (blood flow or circulation) components. The penile portion of the process leading to an erection represents only a single component of a very complicated and complex process.
* Erections occur in response to touch, smell, and auditory and visual stimuli that trigger pathways in the brain. Information travels from the brain to the nerve centers at the base of the spine, where primary nerve fibers connect to the penis and regulate blood flow during erections and afterward.
* Sexual stimulation causes the release of chemicals from the nerve endings in the penis that trigger a series of events that ultimately cause muscle relaxation in the erection bodies of the penis. The smooth muscle in the erection bodies controls the flow of blood into the penis. When the smooth muscle relaxes, the blood flow dramatically increases, and the erection bodies become full and rigid, resulting in an erection. Venous drainage channels are compressed and close off as the erection bodies enlarge.
* Detumescence (the process by which the penis becomes flaccid) results when muscle-relaxing chemicals are no longer released.
If one or more of the above physical and/or psychological processes is disrupted, erectile dysfunction can result. Erectile dysfunction describes a man’s inability to achieve and maintain an erection of his penis sufficient for mutually satisfactory intercourse with his partner.
In general, the cause of erectile dysfunction is divided into 2 types:
* Psychological (mental) causes
* Physical or organic (having to do with a bodily organ or an organ system) causes
I suggest that you focus more on the ED and not your old illness because it already has passed.
June 24th, 2010 at 4:14 am
I was going to say it seems psychological (associating ejaculation with feeling pain) but you said you already tried psych meds. Maybe try talking with a professional about mind exercises.