What is your view on sexual dysfunction or paraphilia?

2 Responses to “What is your view on sexual dysfunction or paraphilia?”

glistam3 Says:
November 5th, 2009 at 2:26 pm

I have some experiences when helping patients myself and it creates (for me at least) an interesting comparison between the DSM dysfunctions and paraphilias you mentioned, and how things are experienced in reality.

Many of the sexual dysfunctions have medical causes, often organic in nature. But they can also be psychological. The best example I can talk about is vaginismus. In clinical practice, I’ve found that women who were raised in strict religions like Catholicism and some christian fundamentalist sects tend to experience this the most. I theorize it is a result of how such faiths treat sexuality as "evil." As psychologists, we are suppose to remove ourselves from judging religions, yet it seems to come up again and again in therapy. Sexual abuse is also a common cause, but more often that seems result in sexual pain disorder aka "unexplained pelvic pain" or the poor woman have been unsuccessfully treated for endometriosis over and over again.

As for the paraphilias, I found a great rule of thumb for determining whether one is unhealthy per se. The following are bad signs:
1. Doing acts that are illegal.
2. Suffering injuries (the self or others)
3. Doing dangerous acts that could lead to injury or death.
4. Inability to maintain emotional intimacy with another person.

Having any of the above tends to indicate one has a problem. I find this a good way to draw the between "kinky" (which is ok for the most part) and "unhealthy" (which hurts oneself or others).

I could go on and on, but I’m sure many others will reply so I hope my own contribution will be helpful to you.

Meagan K Says:
November 5th, 2009 at 2:26 pm

I don’t understand what it is you are asking for… our views on sexual dysfunction?

Hmm… well I have never had any of those sexual disorders.

I have had an experience with exhibitionism. I was in MI late at night once, and a man whipped out his penis and started jerking off while looking at me. It was quite graphic and disgusting. I immediately went back in the house. I looked out the window, and he was still out there doing it, and looking in my window. By the time we called the cops he had left…….. It made me pretty uncomfortable.

I guess I sort of have sexual sadism. I find pain enjoyable sometimes when engaged with people I suppose… it sort of makes things interesting, and more exhilarating I guess… certainly not extreme pain, but a little pain is good. Like being rough, I guess lol.

Both pedophilia, and incest I find disgusting. Wanting to perform sexual acts with little kids is completely wrong…. they aren’t even fully developed yet. Incest is gross because you are so genetically linked to that person that if you reproduced you kid would be really fucked up. It’s just not natural.

I’m 18, and female.

glistam3 Says:
November 5th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
I have some experiences when helping patients myself and it creates (for me at least) an interesting comparison between the DSM dysfunctions and paraphilias you mentioned, and how things are experienced in reality.

Many of the sexual dysfunctions have medical causes, often organic in nature. But they can also be psychological. The best example I can talk about is vaginismus. In clinical practice, I’ve found that women who were raised in strict religions like Catholicism and some christian fundamentalist sects tend to experience this the most. I theorize it is a result of how such faiths treat sexuality as "evil." As psychologists, we are suppose to remove ourselves from judging religions, yet it seems to come up again and again in therapy. Sexual abuse is also a common cause, but more often that seems result in sexual pain disorder aka "unexplained pelvic pain" or the poor woman have been unsuccessfully treated for endometriosis over and over again.

As for the paraphilias, I found a great rule of thumb for determining whether one is unhealthy per se. The following are bad signs:
1. Doing acts that are illegal.
2. Suffering injuries (the self or others)
3. Doing dangerous acts that could lead to injury or death.
4. Inability to maintain emotional intimacy with another person.

Having any of the above tends to indicate one has a problem. I find this a good way to draw the between "kinky" (which is ok for the most part) and "unhealthy" (which hurts oneself or others).

I could go on and on, but I’m sure many others will reply so I hope my own contribution will be helpful to you.
Meagan K Says:
November 5th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
I don’t understand what it is you are asking for… our views on sexual dysfunction?

Hmm… well I have never had any of those sexual disorders.

I have had an experience with exhibitionism. I was in MI late at night once, and a man whipped out his penis and started jerking off while looking at me. It was quite graphic and disgusting. I immediately went back in the house. I looked out the window, and he was still out there doing it, and looking in my window. By the time we called the cops he had left…….. It made me pretty uncomfortable.

I guess I sort of have sexual sadism. I find pain enjoyable sometimes when engaged with people I suppose… it sort of makes things interesting, and more exhilarating I guess… certainly not extreme pain, but a little pain is good. Like being rough, I guess lol.

Both pedophilia, and incest I find disgusting. Wanting to perform sexual acts with little kids is completely wrong…. they aren’t even fully developed yet. Incest is gross because you are so genetically linked to that person that if you reproduced you kid would be really fucked up. It’s just not natural.

I’m 18, and female.

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